A Loving Reminder: Caring for What Brings You Joy
Let’s be honest—when it comes to sex toys, the conversation often ends at which one to choose. But what happens after the joy, the self-discovery, the connection?
We clean. We care.
Not because we “have to,” but because it’s an act of respect—for your body, your pleasure, and your well-being.
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to clean your toy properly—or even hesitated to use one because of hygiene concerns—you’re not alone. For many of us, especially if we’re newer to this journey, cleaning can feel a little mysterious. But I promise you, it’s easier (and gentler) than you might think.
This guide is here to lovingly walk you through it—with clarity, calm, and care.
Still looking for your first pleasure toy? Use the guide ‘How to Choose Your First Adult Toy’ for some assistance.
Why Cleaning Matters: A Simple Act of Self-Love
Your toy touches the most delicate parts of your body—and that makes cleanliness more than just a chore. It’s a ritual. A small, meaningful way to protect your health and honor your pleasure.
Proper cleaning:
- Prevents bacterial growth and infections
- Prolongs the life of your toy
- Makes your next experience feel fresh, safe, and loving
When we care for our toys, we’re also caring for ourselves. That matters.
How to Clean Your Sex Toy (Without the Stress)
Step 1: Check the Material
Medical-grade silicone is your safest choice—it’s non-porous, soft, durable, and easy to clean. Other body-safe materials include stainless steel and glass. If your toy isn’t made of one of these, be cautious—especially with older or cheaper jelly-like textures, which can be porous and difficult to clean thoroughly.
Tip: If you’re shopping for your first toy, look for “body-safe silicone” in the description. Most women-friendly brands use this material.
Step 2: Basic Cleaning Routine
For most toys:
- Rinse with warm water – Not hot, just comfortably warm.
- Use a mild, unscented soap – Look for pH-neutral, sulfate-free options. No harsh detergents or scrubs!
- Gently clean all surfaces – Especially around buttons, curves, or ridges.
- Rinse thoroughly – Make sure all soap is washed away.
- Let it air dry – Use a clean towel or set it on a soft cloth. Avoid bathroom humidity if you can.
Note: If your toy isn’t waterproof, don’t submerge it. Instead, use a damp cloth to wipe it down gently.
Step 3: Go Deeper With Toy Cleaners (Optional)
There are beautiful, eco-friendly toy cleaners out there—like the Easyglide Toycleaner or keep it extra hygienic with YES Cleanse Intimate Wash. These are designed specifically for intimate toys and are free from parabens, sulfates, and artificial fragrance.
While not essential, they can add an extra layer of care—and a sense of ritual—to your cleaning routine.
Step 4: Store With Intention
Once your toy is clean and dry, store it in a soft cloth pouch or a breathable box. Avoid plastic containers that trap moisture. Don’t let it touch other toys directly, as materials can react with each other.
Keeping your toy tucked away gently also adds a touch of elegance—and respects your privacy.
Sustainable, Safe, and Ethical Tips
At Femme Desires, we believe that pleasure should be kind—to your body, your mind, and the planet. Here’s how to make your cleaning routine more sustainable:
Clean your toy even if you didn’t climax — It still came into contact with your body and deserves the same care.
Use water-based, organic lubricants — They’re safer for your toy and your health.
Avoid antibacterial soaps — They can damage toy surfaces and upset your body’s natural balance.
Choose reusable cloths over disposable wipes.
A Few Thoughtful Products to Help You Begin
If you’re ready to care for your toys the way they care for you, here are some beginner-friendly, body-safe picks:
Some Care Intimate Moisturizing Oil
Soothing, silky, and plant-based — your daily ritual of softness and care.
Dame Toy Bag
A sleek, discreet storage bag for your intimate essentials. Travel-friendly and protective — because pleasure deserves to be stored in style.
Yes’ Cleanse Intimate Wash
A kind, pH-balanced wash made for daily freshness. No harsh chemicals, just plant-based care your body will love.
Easyglide Toy Cleaner Spray
Keep things fresh and clean. This gentle spray makes it easy to care for your toys — just a few spritzes and you’re ready for next time.
Gentle Wrap-Up: You Deserve a Clean, Safe Space
Cleaning your sex toy isn’t just about hygiene. It’s about you. Your body, your boundaries, your care.
So, take your time. Make it a ritual. Light a candle if you want to. Let it be something tender and not just functional.
Because in the end, pleasure and care go hand in hand. And every small act of attention you give to your body is a powerful act of self-love.
You deserve pleasure that feels clean, safe, and beautifully your own.
